A great deal has changed in the past 20 years. Gender is no longer considered binary,
as it was when we first discussed this topic, but rather a spectrum. The expansion
dicusses a number of gender identities and their genger expressions.
LGBTIA2S+ 
sexual dimorphism
sexual strategies
    men - multiple partners
    women - single partner who will stick around & help raise children
You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation
    sociolinguist
    gender distinctions - touchy area / lots of hot buttons
    different cultures for men & women
    genderlect
        different worlds / different words [meanings]
    message & metamessage
        metaframing
            perceived context may not be intended context [especially between genders]
        asymmetry in communication [see Communication]
            ambiguous
            social ranking by implication
    females
        seeks intimacy
            connection
        equality
            best friends
            avoid being different
            give intimate details
            gain closeness - community
        harmony & peace
            maintain thru compromise & evasion
        give praise
            rapport
        seek to be liked
        share doubts
        female friends sit closer together & look directly at each other
    males
        seeks independence
            status
        hierarchy
            the gang
            avoid being put 'down'
            give orders
            negotiate status
                contest
        expertise & skill
            display thru results & evasion
        give information
            report
        seek center stage
        keep doubts to self
        male friends sit at angles & rarely look directly at each other
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
    therapist
    martians
        value power, competency, efficiency, & achievement
        self defined thru ability to achieve results
        interested in objects & things
        talk conveys information
        only wants advice if requesting it
        under stress retreats into silence until problem is solved or until distracted
        wants silence in which to think
        the cave & its dragon
        man as a rubberband
            retreat & approach
        argumentive strategy
            fight or flight
        need to offer support
    venusians
        value love, communication, beauty, & relationships
        self defined thru sharing personal feelings in relationships
        interested in people & feelings
        talk expresses feelings
        needs people to listen
        under stress talks until feeling is resolved
        wants understanding & support not advice
        tete-a-tete
        woman as a wave
            cyclic ups & downs
        argumentive strategy
            fake or fold
        need to ask directly for support
    female:
        primary / secondary needs
    male:
        secondary / primary needs
        caring / trust
        understanding / acceptance
        respect / appreciation
        devotion / admiration
        validation / approval
        reassurance / encouragement
 
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus - John Gray
The Stone Age Present - William F. Allman
You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation - Deborah Tannen